Much delayed post
I am sure some of you may be wondering why this site has not been updated in some time. There is a very good reason for it. You see, this was my mother’s site… she was the one with the interest in genealogy. I merely oversaw the basic maintenance of barnumfamily.org, and honestly, I had been neglecting that in the months prior to an event that changed my, our lives forever.
You see, in the month of September, 2011… my mother was diagnosed with pancoast lung tumor. In a bit of an ironic twist, the actual date was September 11th, 2011. I believe in the beginning she thought very little of diagnosis. I think she believed it would merely be another set back in what had been a bit of a rapid whitewater of a life.
It, however, soon proved to be too much of a struggle even for her. Unlike her struggle with breast cancer in 2008, she was not going to overcome her battle with lung cancer. In November of 2011 she entered Hospice. I think at this point I was in even more of a denial stage than she was.
Her physicians had advised me that she likely would not see the New Year… maybe not even Thanksgiving. Thankfully she did, however, make it into 2012. She did see the new year. For this I am grateful. She, however, passed away on January 4th, 2012. It was unexpected for me, and was rather devastating.
I have wanted to do this post since the day after her death. I, however, have been unable to until now. I am not sure what stopped me. Maybe in some rational, the more I postponed it, the more it didn’t happen. This website after all had been a joint venture between the two of us. So in posting this, I am giving some finality to one of her life’s projects. Yes, I believe that is it.
I could close this by preaching about the ills of smoking or advising an individual to get a second opinion about possible treatment options if facing a possible terminal diagnosis. I, however, will not. It is your life; do what you want. Instead, I will merely state that I hoped this site in some way has helped you with your genealogy research. I know that would make my mother proud.
So in closing mom, I would like to merely state that I really do miss you. Things have simply not been the same since your passing. I not only lost my mom, but my best friend with your death.
Love… your son,
Jeff
My mom’s obituary:
http://lacrossetribune.com/lifestyles/announcements/obituaries/virginia-kay-porter/article_da93de24-3986-11e1-89f8-001871e3ce6c.html







